Thank you 2018, but NEXT.
Hi everyone! It’s officially time to break up with 2018 — finally! This year has felt like an eternity (and not in a good way). For me, I have a feeling this break up is definitely not mutual and much more of an “it’s not you, it’s me” type of thing, but whatever it’s over. Thank you 2018, but next. You’re all probably going to hate me for saying this but I’m the type of person who actually is decently good at keeping up my new year’s resolutions! BUT — I have tricks to my trade, and I cannot wait to share them with you. My resolutions are probably pretty common because I am totally #basic (but I admit it, so it makes it okay) so I will share them with you and hopefully inspire you to make some of your own.
First things first, you have to make an inspiration board! Buy a bunch of magazines, a glue stick, and a big poster board and scrapbook it up. Make sure you make it really aesthetically pleasing because then you can put it up in your bathroom to remind yourself to keep up with your resolutions! You don’t need to write out each resolution on the board but putting some cute reminders up will do the trick. For example, one of my resolutions is to consistently practice self-care, so instead of writing this down I could find an article or something related to self-care in a magazine and stick it on my board, this could be the words “self-care” written out in big letters, or “mindfulness,” “meditate,” “face mask,” even “aromatherapy” would do the trick. Just little things to remind me that these things are important.
This is a super fun thing to do with your family, or friends at the beginning of the new year and really motivates me to stay on top of my shit. When you snatch a peek of your poster board it will remind you to get off your ass and get on your resolutions. I may or may not have gotten this idea from Pam Beasley on The Office when she snakes her way into the office manager job and wants everyone at Dunder Mifflin to write their resolutions up on the board. My personal fave resolutions were; Dwight’s: “meet a loose woman,” Creed’s: “do a cartwheel,” and Kevin’s: “eat more vegetables.” Just a friendly reminder that your resolutions don’t need to be big to make it on your poster board!
Some people like to write their resolutions down in their reminders on their phone/computer and have them pop up once a week. This is not my style because it’s sometimes a little bit pushy and invasive but if you think you’ll need the extra push you should totally go for it! This makes you focus on your resolution at least once a week — and if you actually complete the resolution you can mark the notification as completed which is a super satisfying feeling.
One app that has been really helpful for me is called streaks. You can get it in the app store and basically you set up a bunch of goals to set for yourself to do daily and once you complete them you get to press down on the circle and make it full (it’s super satisfying and you will not be able to understand it unless you see it for yourself). You work up to set streaks for yourself (just like snapchat streaks which I totally vibe with, my longest one is at 1,213 days which is actually insane) so if you complete a goal every day for long enough you set a streak! This helps me because I never want to end my streaks, so I strive to complete my tasks every day.
Spend more time with my true friends & family.
I found that in 2018 I spent a lot of time focusing on the bad in my world. I stressed out about my schoolwork, spent time with some fake friends, and got caught up in a whole lot of drama that made me super anxious, which took up most of my time. In 2019 I really am going to strive to focus on the good things in life, like my family whom I love so much, and my true friends who really care about me. At my school I find it’s super easy to get caught up in the “bubble.” I was always told that social status and popularity/exclusiveness would end in high school and not continue onto university, but I’ve personally only found it to get worse. I think the reason for this was just associating with the people who were caught up in themselves and their social status. I do have a group of amazing best friends who don’t care about popularity and all that high school drama, but in 2018 I think I tried to branch out more and I let myself get caught up in the drama with the wrong people. I know this is super personal, but I’ve spoken to some people who say that the whole social status thing is totally dependent on how you look at it, the drama won’t end in high school if you don’t let it. I wanted to share this because hopefully it can help push some people who are struggling with the same stupid, petty, drama, to focus on the good!
POST INSTAGRAMS WITHOUT ASKING FOR APPROVAL FROM EVERYONE I KNOW.
This is a big one for me (hence the all caps) and it really makes me mad that I haven’t done this sooner. I don’t know if me and my friends are the only people who do this but whenever I want to post an Instagram, I send it out to at least 15 people (including my mom) and ask their opinions. In 2019 I would like to stop giving a shit!!!!!! I want to take a fucking picture, apply some pretty VSCO filters to it, and click post. If we’re following the Ariana Grande theme with this article in her latest hit “Imagine” she talks about how she imagines an amazing world where you can just “click, click, click, and post.” I may be interpreting her lyrics incorrectly, but I think she’s wishing she could do exactly what I want to do with this resolution. If it’s in Ariana’s dream world it should definitely be in mine too. I think this resolution has a lot more to do with confidence for me than anything else, I want to care less what other people think about me (and my Insta) and just post what I want to. 2019 will be the year of me.
So, this seems like some huge FAD that’s been going around in 2018, and I definitely have tried to get into it but have been very inconsistent. For me, self-care is so much more than just doing 5 minutes of mindfulness every night or applying 2 face masks every Sunday. I think self-care again has a ton to do with mindset, for me practicing self-care is going to be about focusing on living in the moment. Going along with my theme of not caring what other people think, I want to do what I want and focus on what’s happening in front of me! This will probably mean being on my phone less (I’m going to strive for 2 hours of screen time per day), but also just being more present and taking in the amazing things happening around me!
Some ways that I like to focus on myself and stay in the moment are by giving myself like an hour a day to do something that I really want. This could mean working out, watching some Netflix, lighting some candles, going for dinner with friends, or basically anything that doesn’t involve school work/stressing out.
Story time! My little sister got mono two weeks ago which totally sucks, especially since we’re on a ski vacation in Colorado right now and she’s not allowed to do any physical activity without risking an erupting spleen. Sorry that was probably TMI — but on the first day of our trip she spent her time sulking around and feeling sorry for herself and she obviously had a horrible day. But her mindset changed on the second day and she lived in the moment, she focused on all the good going on around her (like the Kardashians ending up in the same zip code as us and sitting out on the patio having a super good après ski) and had an awesome day! So, in 2019, I’m going to try to be my little sister on her second day of vacation with mono, #goals.
Watch more documentaries.
I tend to be the type of person who binge watches Vanderpump Rules and Gossip Girl until I finish and then go onto the next basic AF TV show. Don’t get me wrong, I love doing this and I don’t think I’ll ever stop because these shows give me life, but in 2019 I would love to branch my binging out and watch shows and movies that I can learn more from. Not that Gossip Girl didn’t teach me any valuable lessons (trust me I will never turn into a Jenny Humphry), but I want to get into those true crime documentaries and other educational (but still super entertaining) shows that everyone raves about. I watched making a murderer and loved it, if anyone has any recommendations on how I can branch out my binge-watching experiences please let me know ASAP.
So anyways, those are my resolutions that will hopefully make 2019 the best year ever! I hope you enjoyed my tips and tricks to stay on top of your resolutions, and hopefully, you can keep on track with your own! Celebrate it up on New Year’s Eve in whatever way make you happy and maybe kill it with an Insta (I will do my very best to start my resolution early and not ask all my friends if they like the pic before I post it).
By: Emmy Goodman