Michael Buble is defrosting, and I’m sure that while you’re dreaming of a white Christmas, you’re also dreaming for someone to cuddle with on those below freezing nights. With the snow starting to fall and the temperatures dropping, you’ve probably started turning to dating apps to find your long-term hookup of the season. This person is someone who you’ll sleep with multiple times a week, with Netflix marathons and cuddles thrown into the mix. This is a phenomenon that has been talked about for ages now: cuffing season.
I wrote an article about the end of cuffing season, which you can find here, but if you live under a rock and are 1) reading MyTherapistSays for the first time, and 2) just learning about cuffing season for the first time, welcome to 2019. Just a recap: the term first appeared in Urban Dictionary in 2011, defined as,” a time during Fall and Winter when people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be ‘cuffed’ or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.” In order to successfully “cuff” yourself, you need to make sure that you actually want to lock it down with one person. If you have a full rotation of dudes that you can call on any given night, and you’re content, then skip cuffing season, and keep doing you. We see you.
Even if commitment isn’t normally your cup of tea, but you still find yourself wanting to be “cuffed up” (no, not like Christian Grey…unless you’re into that), you should probably have your cuff lined up within the next 3 weeks. Otherwise, just get your shit together so you have someone to make out with at midnight on New Year’s Eve.
Getting cuffed is kind of a responsibility until the end of March (March 19th, 2020 to be exact), so make sure you’re in it for the long haul. No one wants to get broken up with during cuffing season, because then they’re all alone and that’s no fun. There’s not even anyone else to rebound with, since every other hot, attractive human is probably cuffed up too. If you’re on the fence about being with this person, don’t do it. There’s nothing worse than a pity fuck and we all know that if you’re not into it, this is what it’ll end up turning into.
When you get cuffed, you also run the risk of catching feelings and wanting to extend your cuff into an actual relationship. If you’re down to have a real SO, then good for you! If you’re not, be careful of feelings. They’re a bitch.
However, he biggest reward of cuffing season is that you don’t come off as forever alone during the holiday season. You get someone to put your freezing cold feet on at night; cuddles are nice. You also have someone to bring home to meet the parents so that your grandmother stops asking why/if you’re still single over Christmas dinner, someone to kiss under mistletoe, and someone to kiss at midnight. There’s also a chance you may get some pretty good presents too (and not just a dick in a box). So basically, a win-win situation.
And there you have it. Happy cuffing season!!!